generationsLife is full of awkward, yet necessary, conversations with our kids. We talk to our young ones about chores, drugs, dating, peer pressure, homework and more. Yet many of us avoid talking to our adult children about important topics like retirement preparedness, eldercare and estate planning.

Parents approaching retirement might be pleasantly surprised to know their kids expect to help out with finances, caregiving and estate execution, according to the latest Fidelity Family & Finance Study.  In fact, the research reveals adult children often have their parents’ backs. For example, although 93 percent of parents feel it would be unacceptable to become financially dependent on their children, only 30 percent of children feel the same.

In too many cases, however, children are not aware of their parents’ wishes. Although 92 percent of parents expect one of their children will assume the role of executor of the estate, when asked, 27 percent of the kids identified as filling this role didn’t know this. While 72 percent of parents expect one of their children will assume long-term caregiver responsibilities if need be, 40 percent of the kids identified as filling this role were unaware of it. And though 69 percent of parents expect one of their children will help manage their investments and retirement finances, 36 percent of the kids identified as filling this role didn’t know.

Having “The Talk” with your kids… about retirement preparedness, eldercare and estate planning.

Why aren’t these conversations taking place? The study suggests it may be a matter of timing. About one-third of those surveyed believe frank conversations should occur after retirement and when health and finances have become an issue. At that point, however, it may be too late. These conversations should begin taking place before retirement, and certainly well before any challenges arise.

Are you ready to have “the talk” with your children or parents? If you would like help initiating the conversation, talk with your financial planner for suggestions.